In the previous post I talked about how spiritual awareness is essential to being capable of sharing a genuine intimate connection with another human being. In this article I'll discuss how tantric practices can bring spiritual development and sex together.

Tantric sex places the focus first and foremost on bringing two people closer together. This involves developing an intimate connection that is somewhat different from what we often term 'intimate' when thinking of sex. I wrote about the reason developing a genuine connection is more important than using sex for negative gains in the the previous article I posted entitled "The Spiritual Guide to Better Sex".

Some of the process and benefits of tantric sex are:

Resonance Tuning: Tantric sex offers the reward of building a sincere connection with another human being as a fundamental focus of making love. This connection is achieved through the process of "tuning" in to other people on a spiritual level instead of judging them according to the ego.

Raising The Kundalini: Once this resonance is established tantric sex can be used to raise the kundalini which enables an even deeper spiritual connection.

Breathing in Consciousness: The process of practicing tantric sex is transcendental both in terms of self-awareness and awakening to higher consciousness. In the long term, tantric sex allows us to redefine how we are able connect and experience love on a number of levels.

Resonance Tuning

Each person has a specific resonance in alignment with his or her soul and when we encounter other people we have a specific response on an energetic level. This is sometimes difficult to recognize unless we give close attention to it.

You can recognize how compatible or how in-tune your own energetic resonance is with others through being aware of these subtleties. Looking into each other's eyes and this is an old tantric method that is used to establish a deeper soul connection. This tantric practice often recommends for a couple to sit naked and look into each other's eyes to focus on their spiritual connection rather than giving their focus to having sex.

You can also use the method of looking into someone else's eyes to establish a deeper spiritual connection with them that is not related to tantric practice. 

Raising The Kundalini

Modern culture often defines the point of sex to be for pleasure or reproduction and stops at that. However the purpose of tantric sex is to increase spiritual awareness and to build a stronger connection between two people. Tantric sex is related to the chakras and the Kundalini energetic power that exists within. The point of practising Tantra is to focus on increasing the exchange of energies between the chakras rather than aiming to achieve orgasm.

Having an orgasm is on some levels related to "charging up" the base chakra – the first major energetic point or chakra. This is often where sex stops for people who do not practice Tantra. However the aim of tantric sex is to charge the higher chakras instead of just the base chakra, which leads to a much more profound experience. Two partners can share the same experience of energetic bliss in the heart chakra with the practice of Tantra, which is often said to be a much more profound experience than regular sex.

Breathing in Consciousness

This exchange of higher energies can be achieved through the tantric practice of breathing at the same pace. Take a deep breath at the same time as your partner and focus on raising the energy up along the chakras. You will notice that speeding up the pace of breathing has different effects on how these energies feel. 

It can take a lot of practice to have success with this technique. In addition, if proper resonance tuning is not completed there is no guarantee that two people are suited for this experience. Tantric sex is all about building a genuine connection between two souls – and if this connection feels forced or unintended then a positive tantric or Kundalini experience will not occur.

Tips For Successful Tantric Practice

1. Ensure the atmosphere is quite.
2. Candles help to set a positive atmosphere.
3. Do not focus on the idea of sex at all, instead give full focus to creating a positive connection.
4. Focus on relaxing and allowing the process to be natural.
5. You can also visualize the positive energies flowing into each chakra.
6. Tantric practice is spiritual in nature so attempt to connecting with each other on a soul-level rather than on an ego-level.