In life our circumstances can often turn into competitions - where we are torn between taking one path or another. How do we choose the best path to follow without hurting those close to us?

The delicate balance

It is sometimes paramount to explore your personal goals and purpose in life and to share that with those close to you to avoid causing them emotional pain in the future. Especially in our relationships, one small splinter left untouched will continue growing, until it causes a painful divide between two people. In our time few people understand the importance of building synchronous relationships and identifying incompatible ones.

Stalemate

In Chess there is a term called Stalemate, where no move can be made by either player to continue the game. This is often what happens when we put our desires in front of our genuine goals.

Once a person figures out their true goal in life work, relationships, and friendships are much easier to align with this purpose. Sometimes we see all of these things as separate in our life. Scattered. Dissonant. Having no relation to one another at all. However there is a deeper synchronicity that governs our entire life - and it is living without a goal that perpetuates the dissonance that so often manifests outward.

Exploration - Inner Search

This exercise can be completed by yourself or with your significant other. I believe it is fundamental to do this at one point or another in all the close relationships we have in life. From personal experience I have observed a great amount of conscious discontent in relationships comes from a difference in subconscious goals between two people - if each wants something different, dissonance brews. This technique of self-exploration allows for the identification of true goals for life. It brings about a sense of clarification as the dissonance, or the deeper synchronicities in your life become apparent.

In 1 Month

The first step is describing to yourself or to the person you are doing this exercise with how you see yourself a month from now. Do you see yourself doing something differently or not? It does not matter if you describe how you see yourself even if things are not going to change at all a month from now. The way in which we see ourselves is often different to how we really are, so this process will allow you to put your life into some perspective.

Continue describing your goals but this time skip ahead to 12 months from now. How do you see yourself, what do you see yourself doing, and what else changes? This process will identify the type of changes you have coming through the subconscious mind if you are not aware of them yet.

In the final step ask yourself how things will look in your life in 10 years time. Lay out your expectations and aims and think about how you are going to end up achieving them. Consider the ultimate achievements you are striving to accomplish in life and how the following years are leading up to them. Upon completing this process ask the person you are doing this exercise with to describe their own goals as well in this order.

Clarification

Sometimes this process causes us to reconsider our goals and to realize that some of them might not be in alignment with our true purpose and intention. Track back to Step 1 … ask yourself - what will I have to do 1 month from now to be 1 step closer to the goals I have for 12 months from now? Consider - what will I have to achieve 12 months from now to have a realistic expectation of achieving the result I want several years from now?

Upon tracking back from your long-term goals to look at how your short term goals are working towards the future a lot of synchronicities, as well as inconsistencies, come to the surface. You will also be able to consider which goals are most important and to look at how current friendships, work commitments, and relationships fit in with them.

Like a game of chess reflecting on your true goals using this method allows you to know which moves and obstacles are ahead of you before winning the game. Leaving all of your future expectations up to fate is the same as planning just 1-move ahead, leaving yourself open to life's Checkmate at any moment.
Planning future moves by looking forward and then tracking back puts obstacles and realistic goals back into perspective and ensures you are more prepared to move forward with confidence.