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Letting Go of Negative Emotions Using The Sedona MethodEmotions can seem to cause us a lot of problems. People often search for justification for their anger. People search for reasons to support their fears. People search for explanations about what it is that makes them so undeserving of receiving love and happiness from others. It is no coincidence that a lot of the time we don't allow ourselves to be happier because of the emotions themselves rather than external circumstances. This is one of the reasons that personal development and counselling industries have boomed in the last decade … it's becoming more obvious that each individual human being has boundless amounts of potential to put into action. It's the beliefs that we have about ourselves that are the main culprits limiting that potential. In the e-book Learn How To Heal I outlined a number of different factors in emotional healing. If I feel anger for example I can either …
The Sedona Method introduces the approach of letting go of emotions. This process gives us the power to liberate negative beliefs and to experience healing. Consider the diagram above. The emotion of anger in fact does have the effect illustrated above on our bodies. If we externalize anger our adrenaline increases and our muscles tense up. On the other hand to internalise anger is almost like "scrunching it up within" which leads to short-term and long-term tension. Other emotions have similar effects. Releasing Negative EmotionsIf we hold onto negative emotions such as anger and fear then it's almost like we are making these feelings a part of who we are. The emotions control our behaviour because of the amount of power and justification we give them. The biggest problem occurs when we interpret an emotion as truth or evidence. If someone gives me a weird look I might feel anxious and then have the automatic thought "that person doesn't like me" for example. This has no basis for being true but like a number of emotions it might seem easier to accept it is truth rather than questioning it. Once we have an automatic thought after each emotion we decide to either externalise or internalise the feeling. In the above example externalising the emotion would be confronting the individual who made me feel uncomfortable. Internalising the emotion would be feeling self-conscious and not confident. The Sedona Method proposes is letting go of the emotion altogether. You can ask these questions: Do I need this emotion right now? If not then I can just let it go — I don't need to hold on to it and I don't need to engage with it. Releasing Positive EmotionsThis is an effective question to ask for dealing with negative emotions. However the Sedona Method also teaches how to let go of positive emotions. Is there a reason someone would want to let go of positive emotions? The answer is that we shouldn't feel the need to hold on to positive feelings as though we might lose them if we let go. To attempt to hold on to all our positive emotions is to assume that we have to internalise them or we'll lose them. The ironic part is that as soon as we attempt to capture them these pleasant feelings disappear.
Once we let go of even the positive emotions we can embrace the abundance thriving around us. The power of letting go is most evident in how it allows us to transform ourselves. This transformation occurs when we stop using emotions as a perceived source for happiness and begin letting them be without altering or attempting to use them to confirm our beliefs. |
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