|
Spiritual Blog Home
10 minute psychic reading with the world's leading practitioners for $1.99
Your life story told in a 25-page horoscope Put your website link here - email alex at spiritualblog.com |
||
Cause of angerThousands of people begin a search for the cause of anger after struggling with controlling excessive feelings of frustration and rage. Like most emotions anger become stronger when we attempt to control it or remove it with force. So if we can't remove it then it makes sense to ask — how come it's here in the first place? The experience of anger has a number of branches that extend from the tree of being ignored and disregarded. If this happens to us the roots of anger are planted and begin to grow. The fact is that we are ignored and disregarded at one point or another in life. The experience that I had was growing up to find that I had been lied to about the nature of the world and people. This is a raw and immediate response of anger that is the same for a number of different situations. For instance — a husband who ignores his wife in the long term. The roots of the wife's anger become planted just the same in this situation.
Seeking JustificationThere are a number of flavours of anger that lead back to the same core desires of wanting … 1. To be acknowledged. 2. To be appreciated and 3. To be understood. If we're not getting one of those things then the first response is dedicating more mental resources towards getting other people to acknowledge and appreciate and understand who we are and where we stand. If we still don't get those things at this point then anger begins to rise. In a number of respects anger is a superficial force that we invent to give ourselves a sense of justification. If things are going fine then it's not difficult to remain calm. If the situation flips then the first thing we might do is attempt to resolve or understand the situation in a logical and reasonable manner. But if we can't understand it or if we can't convince others to understand on a logical level than we turn to the ego. Often the ego's emotional attitude is equivalent to a child's. This is the reason that responses made out of anger can be so child-like and difficult to deal with. Getting to the roots of angerOne useful technique for understanding the causes of anger is listing down what it feels like to be infuriated towards a situation or person. Each of the roots of anger has a unique name that we can assign it and use to understand (and therefore deal with) that specific source of feeling anger. Some of these roots are:
You never just feel anger about something — though it's tempting to label the intense feeling as "anger" and be done with it. However it's not that simple. The roots keep growing into the ground until the actual cause is understood. Segment the emotion of 'anger' into related words and investigate the feeling to get a real grasp on the reason for its presence. Letting It GoI mentioned a few paragraphs back that I had a lot of anger circulating around the entire notion of "spiritual development" at one point. During this time people kept telling me to just let it go which seemed ridiculous to me. "How can I just let it go and forget about all that's happened?" In fact I didn't decide to 'let it go' just like that. It took a while for me to see something better waiting for me before I was able to let it go. This might seem a little bit ironic but it did not happen until I was able to see and experience the alternative first hand. There is just so much more that we can achieve that it eclipses the appeal of holding on to anger. |
Latest Posts
|
|
