Connecting To Your Partner On a Spiritual Level

This is a guest post from Chelle Stein who writes about dating and relationships on her site itmightbelove.com.

Most of us think we know what it takes to have a healthy and lasting relationship. Common principles such as trust, respect, honesty, good communication skills, and others seem to be basic needs of a relationship. However, even with these things it is still possible for many couples to feel as if something is "missing" from their relationship.

When the basic principles of a healthy relationship are there, but it still feels as if the partners are disconnected from one another or there is a strain on the relationship, it is quite possible that the "something missing" is the spiritual connection to one another. We often focus on the physical and emotional needs of a relationship, but fulfilling the spiritual needs of a relationship is equally important. Being connected on a spiritual level does not typically happen instantly or effortlessly, but it can be accomplished without difficulty for most couples.

Here are some ways to build and strengthen a spiritual connection to your partner:

Improve Your Spiritual Self

In order to have a spiritual relationship, you must start with a spiritual self. Take some time to think about what your spiritual needs are and what is necessary to fulfill these needs. Developing your individual spirituality will have a positive impact not only on your own well being, but also in every other aspect of your life, including your relationship with your partner. There are many ways to do this – meditation, writing, and learning new techniques through books and seminars can all help you develop your spiritual self. Nurture your individual needs and you will be able to focus better and give more to your partner to improve the connection between one another.

Give More to Your Partner

Giving is a simple principle that can increase and improve your own individual spirituality as well as improve your relationship. The more you give to your partner, the more you will see your relationship improve. When giving to your partner, it does not need to be anything elaborate or expensive. You can give your partner a hug, a smile, a joke that makes them laugh, an ear to listen to them talk about something bothering them. Giving to your partner is just one of the many ways to say I love you to him or her. When you give to your partner, you should not expect anything in return. Many couples fall in the trap of "keeping score" which not only blocks connecting spiritually, but also causes many emotional roadblocks as well, such as resentment and anger.

Live in the Present

Often in our relationships and in other aspects of our lives we are caught up in what happened yesterday or what our plans for tomorrow may be. We spend so much time dwelling on the past or the future that we fail to enjoy the "right now" of life. When you start mindfully living in the moment, you can see things for what they really are and appreciate more of what you have, instead of what you do not have. When you live in the moment, you are able to fully experience and enjoy life in its present state. The more you live in the "right now" the more you will likely see improved awareness and connection to your partner.

Make More Time for Each Other

It’s easy to get so caught up in the daily responsibilities of life that even though you may see your partner, you are not spending quality time together. Eliminate all distractions such as the television and cell phones, and spend time with just the two of you doing an activity that is uniquely yours. It can be as simple as taking a walk together once a week or just spending an hour together getting coffee at a quiet coffee shop. When you are together, be sure you are experiencing the time together in the "right now" – and you will likely start seeing better understanding and improved intimacy between one another.

Don't Be Afraid to Ask for Help

Many relationship problems can be avoided if we are proactive instead of reactive. Many times we wait until there is a complete communication breakdown or the relationship is close to ending before we seek help. If you and your partner want to improve your spiritual connection with one another, attending a retreat or seminar for couples can be highly beneficial. There are countless books available that also can teach you more about improving spirituality in your relationship. Counseling can also help you work out problems with issues such as communication, problem solving, and other relationship needs.

Connecting spiritually to your partner can bring your relationship to new levels. When you give your relationship attention on a spiritual level, it will only naturally improve the physical and emotional aspects as well – bringing you a healthier and happier relationship and life together.

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